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> Your CORE BLUE Related to Other Colors
After hearing about being 100% responsible for all of your relationships, one of the most pressing questions on your mind may be, “How does my BLUE Core best relate to others?” It is an excellent question, because much of the success that you will experience (or won’t experience) in life is impacted by the relationships that you choose to embrace or not to embrace. And, since it is up to you, and only you, to take 100% responsibility for creating your own life success (no excuses!), you need to learn to be effective with each of the four personality types.
The following diagram shows how the four personality colors interact in their raw state (i.e., not taking into consideration the individual differences between one BLUE and another, or how many character or unhealthy traits an individual may have developed during their life, etc.)
This is how the colors in their raw forms relate with one another. The definitions for the terms used in the above diagram are as follows:
Chris, as a BLUE, you need to know that you can create positive relationships with any color. The Color Code provides you with a guide so that you know what to expect when you engage someone (e.g., typical communication styles, reactions or non-reactions, gestures, etc.) In other words, any color can get along with, or even marry, any color. Even “uncomplimentary opposites” can have a great relationship if the individuals involved take 100% responsibility for making the relationship effective.
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> Your CORE BLUE Related to Other Colors
After hearing about being 100% responsible for all of your relationships, one of the most pressing questions on your mind may be, “How does my BLUE Core best relate to others?” It is an excellent question, because much of the success that you will experience (or won’t experience) in life is impacted by the relationships that you choose to embrace or not to embrace. And, since it is up to you, and only you, to take 100% responsibility for creating your own life success (no excuses!), you need to learn to be effective with each of the four personality types.
The following diagram shows how the four personality colors interact in their raw state (i.e., not taking into consideration the individual differences between one BLUE and another, or how many character or unhealthy traits an individual may have developed during their life, etc.)
This is how the colors in their raw forms relate with one another. The definitions for the terms used in the above diagram are as follows:
- Complimentary Opposites: RED/WHITE & BLUE/YELLOW – These are the most natural connections. You will notice that both are either logic or emotion based, and that you have one controlling and one non-controlling personality type in the relationship. This means that they don’t struggle with logic vs. emotion incompatibilities, nor will there be a struggle over who’s in charge.
- Complimentary Similarities: RED/YELLOW & BLUE/WHITE – While these are not usually as natural of a connection as the Complimentary Opposites, they do mesh together fairly well. There is a potential for logic vs. emotion conflict, but typically no power struggle.
- Comfortable Opposites: YELLOW/WHITE – This is exactly what it’s billed to be – a comfortable relationship. Since both types are non-controlling, they typically enjoy each other’s company very much and can free flow quite naturally. The main problem here is getting one or the other to take control and lead the relationship, because neither naturally feels the desire to do so.
- Uncomplimentary Opposites: RED/BLUE – This is naturally the most difficult, but ironically one of the most dynamic, relationship combinations. There can be a constant logic vs. emotion struggle as well as the most potential for a fight for control. However, when this relationship works, it is very hard to beat, because both parties show up, pay their dues, and get things done.
Chris, as a BLUE, you need to know that you can create positive relationships with any color. The Color Code provides you with a guide so that you know what to expect when you engage someone (e.g., typical communication styles, reactions or non-reactions, gestures, etc.) In other words, any color can get along with, or even marry, any color. Even “uncomplimentary opposites” can have a great relationship if the individuals involved take 100% responsibility for making the relationship effective.
- Which color do you find to be the most difficult for you?
- What about YOU makes this so?
- For example, John Doe is BLUE and he struggles most with REDS. He thinks that they’re just a bunch of insensitive jerks because “all they care about is looking good personally to their superiors and have no regard for people’s feelings or what sacrifices they make to get the job done as well as they do.” If John were to take 100% responsibility for his relationships, he would need to look at what about himself is causing his dislike of REDS. He would see that in his case, he personalizes issues instead of seeing them from a business standpoint, which causes him to feel misunderstood and under-appreciated, especially when dealing with the REDS with whom he interacts. If he owned his problem and worked on being more professional by depersonalizing issues, he would have the power to change his effectiveness with REDS, which would enhance his personal relationships as well as make him much more valuable professionally.
- If you still think this is about “them,” you are really missing the point!
- For example, John Doe is BLUE and he struggles most with REDS. He thinks that they’re just a bunch of insensitive jerks because “all they care about is looking good personally to their superiors and have no regard for people’s feelings or what sacrifices they make to get the job done as well as they do.” If John were to take 100% responsibility for his relationships, he would need to look at what about himself is causing his dislike of REDS. He would see that in his case, he personalizes issues instead of seeing them from a business standpoint, which causes him to feel misunderstood and under-appreciated, especially when dealing with the REDS with whom he interacts. If he owned his problem and worked on being more professional by depersonalizing issues, he would have the power to change his effectiveness with REDS, which would enhance his personal relationships as well as make him much more valuable professionally.
- What unnecessary “baggage” are you carrying, and how is it affecting your life?
- Another question to ask yourself is, “Do I have baggage?” – Are you carrying things from the past that are limiting your life? For example, you may have had an unhealthy RED mother who was always inappropriately critical of your performance, and who valued you based on your accomplishments (or lack thereof) instead of loving you unconditionally. Consequently, you are always on the defensive when interacting with other REDS. If you don’t take responsibility for letting go of your baggage, your life will be horribly limited.
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