Saturday, October 11, 2008

Conclusion

Chris Clark - Color Code Analysis - Page 27 of 27
> Conclusion


You have just finished reading a detailed report about yourself that highlights some of the most important information you will ever read. You have taken the first step to building stronger self-awareness and are now able to embark on a journey of continual self-improvement if you so desire. It is important to remember that you, and only you, are 100% responsible for the success in your life and in every relationship you create. With the information you now possess, you have the truth and power to create stronger relationships with people both personally and professionally, starting with the relationship you have with yourself.

To recap, you have learned that your personality came with you at birth, and that you personally are motivated by INTIMACY. You identified your innate strengths and limitations as a Core BLUE and evaluated your Secondary Color traits as a YELLOW. You learned that to experience the most fulfilled life, and to embark on your journey of self-improvement, you must first become congruent with yourself by identifying and acting in harmony with your innate personality. You know that once you have mastered the concept of congruence, you are ready to move on to developing your character, or further developing strengths outside of your Core BLUE.

Keep in mind that self-improvement is a process, not an event, and takes time to master. With persistence, 100% responsibility, and assistance from those around you who care about you, you can soon walk the charactered path and embrace more meaningful relationships. Best of luck to you on the journey of personal development, Chris, and congratulations for completing the first step!


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Friday, October 10, 2008

Evaluating Relationships

Chris Clark - Color Code Analysis - Page 26 of 27
> Evaluating Your Relationships




The purpose of this activity is to get you thinking about some of your most important relationships and to help you evaluate how committed you are to developing relationships in general.


  1. Who has been the most positive influence on your life?

    • Think of one individual from your personal life and one from your professional life (they may be the same person) who currently has exerted the most positive influence on you by valuing you or validating your life in a positive way.



    • Why did you choose these people?


  2. Who limits your effectiveness?

    • Think of one individual from your personal life and one from your professional life (they may the same person) who currently blocks/limits your effectiveness.



    • Why did you choose these people?


  3. Who do you value and promote?

    • Think of one individual from your personal life and one from your professional life (they may be the same person) who you currently value and promote in a positive manner.



    • Why did you choose these people?


  4. Who do you not understand/support?

    • Think of one individual from your personal life and one from your professional life (they may be the same person) who you do not understand and have not been able to value or promote in a positive manner.



    • Why did you choose these people?


  5. Are you committed to developing relationships?

    • How committed are you to improving the quality of your relationships?

      (Circle one. On a scale of 1-5, 1 being lowest and 5 being highest.)



    • Why or why not?




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Thursday, October 9, 2008

Relationship Tips

Chris Clark - Color Code Analysis - Page 25 of 27
> Tips for Creating Effective Relationships


Consider the following tips when communicating and interacting with other colors:


  1. Accept their individuality.
  2. Create an informal, relaxed setting.
  3. Combine firmness with kindness.
  4. Always react gently.
  5. Show patience, try not to rush them.
  6. Look for nonverbal clues.
  7. Hear them out; listen quietly and carefully.


  1. Be cruel or insensitive.
  2. Expect them to need much social interaction.
  3. Force immediate verbal expression.
  4. Be domineering or too intense.
  5. Overwhelm them with too much at once.
  6. Force confrontation.
  7. Take away all their daydreams.


  1. Present facts and figures.
  2. Be direct, brief, and specific.
  3. Present issues logically.
  4. Emphasize productivity and efficiency.
  5. Articulate your feelings clearly.
  6. Support their leadership instincts.
  7. Support their correct decisions.


  1. Embarrass them in front of others.
  2. Argue from an emotional perspective.
  3. Be slow and indecisive.
  4. Always use an authoritarian approach.
  5. Wait for them to ask your opinion.
  6. Take their arguments personally.
  7. Demand constant social interaction.


  1. Take a positive, upbeat approach.
  2. Offer praise and appreciation.
  3. Accept some playful teasing.
  4. Encourage them to enjoy their work.
  5. Encourage their verbal self-expression.
  6. Reinforce trust with appropriate physical gestures.
  7. Value their social interaction skills.


  1. Be too serious in criticism.
  2. Ignore them.
  3. Forget that they have “down” times, too.
  4. Expect them to dwell on problems.
  5. Attack their sensitivity or be unforgiving.
  6. Totally control their schedules/time.
  7. Give them too much rope (or they may hang themselves).


  1. Show appreciation.
  2. Take a sensitive approach.
  3. Demonstrate sincerity.
  4. Limit their perceived exposure to risk.
  5. Help them feel secure.
  6. Promote their creative efforts.
  7. Be loyal.


  1. Make them feel guilty.
  2. Be rude or abrupt.
  3. Expect spontaneity.
  4. Promote too much change.
  5. Expect them to bounce back easily from depression.
  6. Expect them to forgive quickly.
  7. Abandon them.


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Wednesday, October 8, 2008

Successful Relationships

Chris Clark - Color Code Analysis - Page 24 of 27
> Walking The Path to Successful Relationships


Chris, your two lowest scores on the profile were 7.42% WHITE and 10.76% RED. This indicates that naturally, you may find it most difficult to relate to WHITES and REDS.

In the following diagram, you will find your own color indicated on the left and all four colors on the right in descending order of the scores processed from your profile results. Note: Just because the colors on the right are in descending order (your lowest percentage to your highest) doesn’t necessarily mean that you struggle in connecting with those colors in that order. Also note that as a BLUE, there is still the possibility you may need to work on relating to other BLUES.


Chris



  • Look at the colors on the right of the diagram. Order them one through four in terms of your ability to connect to them with one being the least amount of connection and four being the most natural connection.

  • Write out what about yourself you could change to be more effective in dealing with each of them. Remember: this is about what YOU need to change, not what’s wrong about them.

  • Think of people in your life with whom you desire a stronger relationship. Determine what you will need to do based on their color to “walk their path” or to communicate with them in a manner that they prefer, instead of expecting them to do things your way. Always remember: YOU MUST TAKE 100% RESPONSIBILITY.


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Tuesday, October 7, 2008

Relation to Other Colors

Chris Clark - Color Code Analysis - Page 23 of 27
> Your CORE BLUE Related to Other Colors


After hearing about being 100% responsible for all of your relationships, one of the most pressing questions on your mind may be, “How does my BLUE Core best relate to others?” It is an excellent question, because much of the success that you will experience (or won’t experience) in life is impacted by the relationships that you choose to embrace or not to embrace. And, since it is up to you, and only you, to take 100% responsibility for creating your own life success (no excuses!), you need to learn to be effective with each of the four personality types.

The following diagram shows how the four personality colors interact in their raw state (i.e., not taking into consideration the individual differences between one BLUE and another, or how many character or unhealthy traits an individual may have developed during their life, etc.)



This is how the colors in their raw forms relate with one another. The definitions for the terms used in the above diagram are as follows:
  • Complimentary Opposites: RED/WHITE & BLUE/YELLOW – These are the most natural connections. You will notice that both are either logic or emotion based, and that you have one controlling and one non-controlling personality type in the relationship. This means that they don’t struggle with logic vs. emotion incompatibilities, nor will there be a struggle over who’s in charge.

  • Complimentary Similarities: RED/YELLOW & BLUE/WHITE – While these are not usually as natural of a connection as the Complimentary Opposites, they do mesh together fairly well. There is a potential for logic vs. emotion conflict, but typically no power struggle.

  • Comfortable Opposites: YELLOW/WHITE – This is exactly what it’s billed to be – a comfortable relationship. Since both types are non-controlling, they typically enjoy each other’s company very much and can free flow quite naturally. The main problem here is getting one or the other to take control and lead the relationship, because neither naturally feels the desire to do so.

  • Uncomplimentary Opposites: RED/BLUE – This is naturally the most difficult, but ironically one of the most dynamic, relationship combinations. There can be a constant logic vs. emotion struggle as well as the most potential for a fight for control. However, when this relationship works, it is very hard to beat, because both parties show up, pay their dues, and get things done.

Chris, as a BLUE, you need to know that you can create positive relationships with any color. The Color Code provides you with a guide so that you know what to expect when you engage someone (e.g., typical communication styles, reactions or non-reactions, gestures, etc.) In other words, any color can get along with, or even marry, any color. Even “uncomplimentary opposites” can have a great relationship if the individuals involved take 100% responsibility for making the relationship effective.


  1. Which color do you find to be the most difficult for you?

  2. What about YOU makes this so?

    • For example, John Doe is BLUE and he struggles most with REDS. He thinks that they’re just a bunch of insensitive jerks because “all they care about is looking good personally to their superiors and have no regard for people’s feelings or what sacrifices they make to get the job done as well as they do.” If John were to take 100% responsibility for his relationships, he would need to look at what about himself is causing his dislike of REDS. He would see that in his case, he personalizes issues instead of seeing them from a business standpoint, which causes him to feel misunderstood and under-appreciated, especially when dealing with the REDS with whom he interacts. If he owned his problem and worked on being more professional by depersonalizing issues, he would have the power to change his effectiveness with REDS, which would enhance his personal relationships as well as make him much more valuable professionally.

    • If you still think this is about “them,” you are really missing the point!

  3. What unnecessary “baggage” are you carrying, and how is it affecting your life?

    • Another question to ask yourself is, “Do I have baggage?” – Are you carrying things from the past that are limiting your life? For example, you may have had an unhealthy RED mother who was always inappropriately critical of your performance, and who valued you based on your accomplishments (or lack thereof) instead of loving you unconditionally. Consequently, you are always on the defensive when interacting with other REDS. If you don’t take responsibility for letting go of your baggage, your life will be horribly limited.


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Monday, October 6, 2008

Responsible for Success

Chris Clark - Color Code Analysis - Page 22 of 27
> Responsible for Success


SECTION IV. Relating to Others



> You are 100% Responsible for the Success of Your Relationships

We live in – and consequently have been taught by – a victim society where accepting responsibility and blame for our shortcomings has become increasingly more uncommon. We have learned that we can always let ourselves off the hook by offering excuses or blaming others who didn’t do their part. This section of your report will challenge the standard way of thinking (victim society) by asserting that you are 100% responsible for the level of success you experience in life, based on each and every one of your relationships.

In other words, you are 100% responsible for every relationship. The other person is not responsible. This is not a 50-50 proposition. It is not 100-100, both equally and fully responsible in order for the relationship to work. It is solely and always 100-0%. If there is any blame, it is yours. No excuse is legitimate, sought, or accepted. You are 100% responsible for creating what you get. And you get exactly what you deserve.

By taking 100% responsibility for every relationship, you expand your options to succeed. You increase your control over yourself and all factors that have an impact on your relationships. Take anything less than 100% and you limit your options to create high performance and get the results you desire. Wouldn’t you rather be in charge of your destiny than have someone else direct your life? Trust yourself to make good choices and seek proactive resolutions for solving problems and building legitimate relationships.

Being 100% responsible frees you to act … to create solutions… to win! As long as you give any percentage of responsibility away to someone else, they can hold you hostage. If they don’t behave as you want them to or can’t meet your expectations, they can own you.


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Sunday, October 5, 2008

Building Character

Chris Clark - Color Code Analysis - Page 21 of 27
> Building Character




Once you have mastered the concept of congruence, meaning you feel and are seen by others as being who you say you are, you are ready to move on to developing positive character. In other words, first get yourself and then get beyond yourself by developing “muscle” in other areas of your life.

The Charactered Path

People behave in four basic patterns. They are charactered, healthy, unhealthy, or dysfunctional. If someone falls under the charactered pattern, they are exhibiting positive traits outside of their Core Color. In the healthy pattern, they are exhibiting positive traits inside their Core Color. In the unhealthy pattern, they are exhibiting negative traits inside their Core Color. In the dysfunctional pattern, they are exhibiting negative traits outside their Core Color.

While we may operate in all four patterns at any given time, most people commonly find themselves in one of three blends of these basic patterns. They live predominantly in the realm of charactered-healthy, healthy-unhealthy, or unhealthy-dysfunctional. The following is an illustration of this concept and an indication of where your natural personality traits are plotted:



  • persuasive
  • creative thinker


  • well-mannered
  • sincere
  • quality-oriented
  • intuitive


  • emotionally intense
  • unrealistic expectations


  • always right
  • timid
  • forgetful
  • self-centered


    ** When you look at the chart above, it is important that you remember that your profile does NOT put you in a box. It only creates self-awareness, the starting point of positive change. Also, the traits that you see listed under each category were what you came with innately (your nature). You may have already begun to change some or even many of them (nurture).

    Here are some important principles for you to remember:

  1. It is NEVER wise to give up your driving Core Color. You probably want to move away from the limitations, which are only behavioral traits, but in doing so be sure to keep “the good stuff.” In other words, stay congruent with your Core BLUE.

  2. Whether people around you are familiar with The Color Code or not, they will sense that something is not right about you when you act from limitations outside of your Core Color. Work on eliminating those first.

  3. Get feedback from others, because they typically will see you more accurately than you see yourself.

  4. This is a process, not an event. Do not expect to change overnight. Think about it in terms of dieting mentally. The best way to be successful is to consistently work at making progress, no matter how small it may seem. You can get there if you want to!

  5. The more charactered you become, the more valuable you are to yourself, your employer, and to other significant people in your life.

  6. The journey is definitely worth it.


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Saturday, October 4, 2008

Leveraging your Secondary

Chris Clark - Color Code Analysis - Page 20 of 27
> Leveraging Your Secondary YELLOW For Growth


The purpose of this activity is to help you continue to leverage your positive YELLOW traits and minimize the messages of incongruence you send by acting out of your YELLOW limitations.

The greatest amount of incongruence in your personality comes from the limitations present in colors other than your Core. What this means to you specifically is that your YELLOW limitations are probably holding you back even more than your BLUE limitations. In fact, because your YELLOW limitations are so incongruent with your BLUE Core, when they surface through your behavior, they always make your strengths seem non-genuine to others. The bright side is that the strengths from your Secondary YELLOW will always enhance your personality. The key is to continue to leverage those strengths (as well as those from your Core Color, of course), but to not be inhibited by the limitations. While minimizing the limitations of your Secondary Color may be more easily said than done, it is possible to do if you commit to always remaining vigilant of them and committing to the process of not exhibiting them.



Look at your YELLOW strengths. Circle the traits most critical to your success in life. Transfer them to the diagram below (you may or may not use all of the spaces provided). Now, look at your YELLOW limitations. Circle the traits that are the most damaging to your life success. Transfer them to the diagram below.


  • persuasive
  • creative thinker


  • forgetful
  • self-centered

Chris

To be successful at lessening the impact of your Secondary YELLOW limitations, surround yourself with “police officers” at home and at work. These police officers are people you will ask to be aware that you are working to correct certain behaviors. If they see you behaving contrary to your objective, it is their right to point out your inappropriate behavior in order to help you change. To make this process work, you will need to first commit yourself to being humble and accepting their feedback (after all, you put them in this situation). It is also essential that the people you choose are people with whom you have established a trusting and open relationship.


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Friday, October 3, 2008

Harnessing your Gifts

Chris Clark - Color Code Analysis - Page 19 of 27
> Harnessing Your Innate Gifts

The intention of this activity is to help you make the most of your innate gifts in all colors while minimizing the impact of your innate limitations. To do this, start by looking at Your Specific Color Code Personality Traits below. (These are the same traits previously listed in Section II of this report.)

There are wonderful qualities listed here, and also not-so-wonderful qualities. Take a moment to identify the three strengths in any color that you feel make your professional life the most successful. List them on the lines provided below in order of their value to your success. Next, identify and list in order the three limitations in any color that you feel are most detrimental to your professional life. Repeat this exercise for your personal life. What you choose may or may not be the same. Ask others for their feedback. Do they agree with you? If not, ask them why. Doing this will help you develop stronger self-awareness – the most pivotal element of Emotional Intelligence, or EQ (remember that EQ is four times more important to your life success than your IQ). As you become more aware of yourself and how you are perceived by others, your quest for self-improvement will move at a much faster pace.



  • well-mannered
  • sincere
  • quality-oriented
  • intuitive


  • persuasive
  • creative thinker







      • emotionally intense
      • unrealistic expectations


      • forgetful
      • self-centered


      • always right


      • timid



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